I believe that NO, the government should not be controlling and dictating the porn industry for their own financial/political agendas. Cuz let’s face it, this is not about the “safety” of the people in the porn industry, the people I feel the government views as “throw away” people (although they definitely make sure to collect my whore money for taxes every year). This is alllllll about political agenda… as usual. (AHF..I’m looking at you).
Do these government people care about the sexual health of civilians in the city of Los Angeles? Do they care if u get tested EVER? Do they care if u have a one night stand, unprotected and never get tested then go around and pass the new and improved incurable gonorrhea to everyone u meet off ur eHarmony profile?
And I also believe that YES, the porn industry is full of shit too and that their stance is full of financial/political agendas as well.
As a performer in the porn industry who does a high number of high risk sex scenes (anal, multiple partner etc.) I have to ask the industry as a whole, Why can’t I choose to use a condom should I want to? Why is this not an option for me here in Los Angeles like it is in San Francisco at Kink? Sure I can be a condom only performer here in L.A. but if I do choose this then it is known that I am also making a choice not to be hired. Plain & Simple.
I’m extremely frustrated with porn at this point in time.
Last year, due to the economy etc, I noticed a lot of companies in my world were hiring “new guys” (aka young supposedly good looking sus ass MFs) because they are cheaper than the leading male industry veterans. After doing several scenes throughout the year last year with new guys and going home feeling worried and full of anxiety, I decided to change how I was shooting. AKA I became WAY more selective with male talent. I would only work with industry veterans & people on my “Yes” list. Then flash forward and here we are..
Mr. Marcus was one of those industry veterans I felt safe working with. He was on my “Yes” list. When I heard the news about the whole syphilis thing my heart sank. Here I went and changed my shooting style so I can feel safe shooting again and then this happens. It has come to this. Less money in the industry means more people in financial dire straits which means a lot more people are willing to risk the health & safety of others so they can eat. And that’s just what it is.
Why can’t we test AND leave the option to wear condoms in a scene open to the performers?
Currently I have chosen to take a break from shooting boy/girl scenes because after the whole Mr. Marcus syphilis scare I was super shook. Even though I was fine and clear and all my tests came back negative I was still shook. Still am.
I’ve spoken to many, many, many girls in the industry, ones that actually are currentlyACTIVE in the industry. Ones that are still shooting and are putting their bodies at risk and ALL of them have told me that they would like the option to use a condom during a scene left open to them. It is my body and it should be MY choice if I want to use a condom during a sex scene or not.
Example: If u hire me to shoot a boy/girl anal scene with Manuel Ferrara I would be cool with no condom. I feel comfortable with him. I know he takes care of his body and health and I feel confident that I can entrust my body in his hands.
Now if u hire me to do the same scene with some “new” guy or a performer I feel less comfortable with I should have just as much right to say I will do the scene but condom only, as I do to refuse doing the scene at all.
I feel like directors and companies and crappy male performers that can’t do their job without dick hardening drugs are the ones that don’t want us to want the right to have a choice about whether or not we use a condom during a scene.
WHY?? It will cost money.
The only male performers that will be able to fuck with a condom are those more expensive industry veterans. These guys cost MONEY.
The cheaper guys can hardly hold it down with all their viagra etc. etc. & no condom so if u add a condom into that it will cost more money hourly on location because odds are they’re gunna struggle.
I feel like Porn Valley should take notes from Kink.com as far as their testing/condom policies.
Sure they beat me, torture me, cattle-prod me, tie me up and electrocute me but at least they give me the right to use a condom should I want to without any repercussions or guilt.
And those are some of my thoughts on the letter B.
About 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We had been together for a year and everything seemed fine but she broke up with me to get back together with her ex boyfriend, who she called a selfish asshole. I asked her why she would break up with me to get back together with him and she said I was "Too nice". I definitely don't see myself as a pushover. What does "Too nice" mean? I'm really confused.
AWWWWEEEE MAAANNN kiSSS OF DEATH!
Okay, there is really no nice way to put this because it just is what it is so I’m just gunna say it…
The “Too Nice” card is played when a girl is really trying to say:
“When I am with u I feel like I’m dating a desperate pussy and that I can walk all over you and shit on u and u’ll just take it because u have no self-respect and that doesn’t make me horny, sorry”
Every girl complains about guys being assholes and how much we hate it and blah blah blah but the fact of the matter is that all bitches view cocks like Groucho Marx views clubs. Ya follow??
We don’t want it if it’s easy. It’s like an unconscious thing we do or something. Very annoying I know but women love a challenge & dicks are our sport! That’s why Cool Guy ALWAYS gets the babe. He’s not always available. He confuses girls. Make us think. We hate it and love it at the same damn time. Not to say you can’t be yourself if you’re a nice guy be a nice guy but by being a nice guy that also includes not being a pussy and not letting your woman take advantage of you and by being a selfish man and confusing us from time to time so we can feel real feminine like and also because we like a challenge and a stomach flip and if you really love us and care you’ll give us what we want. So just be a dick sometimes with the next girl and you’re money.
Or maybe ur ex was just a dumb cunt and she sucked and is totally gunna get dogged out by her ex again real soon and post mad tweegrams on insta about what “real men” do and something about being a “strong woman” blah blah blah, bet.
Have you ever had a point in your life where you feel everything is crumbling? I feel I'm there now. It's like I know what I need to do but I'm so mentally exhausted by it that I can't. Any advice???
Everyone has had that feeling. For me I find the best thing to do when I feel like that is take a timeout. I take a day or two off or just an hour or however long I feel I’ll need and I press pause on problems.
Just stop everything u’re doing (NFG) & do something u know will make u feel good and don’t think about anything u’re worried about for whatever timeframe you preset for yourself. I notice that usually by the time my mini mental vacation is over I feel better and magically I’m able to come up with the energy or idea(s) to solve all my problems.
Mental Siesta, mannnnn… my people know what’s good. Promise ;)